This is one of the hardest things that I have found with my children. I thought that that in my role as parent that it would come naturally. When I saw something being done wrong I would punish that behaviour and my child would change their behaviour to suit me.
Wake up Chris.
It is easy to discipline when annoyed or angry but to discipline in love requires that I can discipline myself. Loving discipline requires the onging forgiveness when the lesson isn’t learned the first time. Why does every meal have a similar theme. Didn’t I punish the kids last night for not eating their meal? Why don’t they come immediately when I call? Why is there always one more thing to watch on TV?
Discipline requres that I act consistently. Although they might not respond consistently as the adult I need to give my kids the boundaries that they need. Without them learning these boundaries they will grow up to become irresponsible adults.
Really discipline is all about love. The longer you wait to disciplne the longer the child has to wait to understand that facet of a loving relationship. By taking the time to correct something within your child it demonstrates that you care about their present and their future. It dignifies them as a human being because it says that they are special to you.
The heart of discipline is love.
Rules for discipline:
1. Make sure that it dignifies the child – talk to the child about what is going on.
2. Never do it publicly it will humiliate the child
3. It needs to be consistent
4. Don’t correct every detail of your child’s life
5. Start young – when they can understand what is going on.
6. For teenagers you don’t have to win every battle.They are learning to be adults and you must teach them how to respond when things don’t go their way.
7. Always allow room for your child to fail – Discipline must be reasonable
8. Learn to understand your child – Every child is different and so discipline will need to be appropriate to that child’s needs
9. Discipline isn’t an act it is a lifestyle of modelling and teaching.