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Weighting – the first 2 kilos

April 28, 2007 by Chris Gribble

Yes I have lost some weight. Not much but more to the point I have tried to institute a lifestyle change. There are two major areas that I have addressed:

I am not on a diet. I still have some fries when I feel like it although I am trying to feel like it less. Chocolate is still there but more occasionally. I am trying to eat more salads, fruits and vegetables. Even with main meals I am trying to up their intake and lower my meat intake.

I am exercising. It is amazing how much better this makes me feel.  More importantly it means that I don’t have to watch as carefully what I eat. Because I don’t need to lose a lot of weight (I think about 7 kilos)  I have a bit of flexibility in this a area. The 8 seconds at a time is a bit tedious. Even though I know that it will help me to lose weight quickly there also has to be a level of enjoyment in it all. I like to exercise and think. Concentrating on pedaling fast for 8 seconds precludes this. Most of the time I try to ensure that my pulse is in the working heart rate zone and I forget about the 8 second sprints. I
am looking forward to getting back out on the road again. But, the beauty of an exercise bike is that I can do it at night when its dark because that’s the time that I often get home. I am also using a rowing machine. This is good too because it is more an overall workout.

So there you have it. Not big changes but a couple of kilos is the result. Two kilos means that I can fit back into clothes a bit more comfortably. It has meant about an inch off my waist measurement. And I feel a little bit better about myself because I have achieved something positive. To me they are all good results so far.

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9 reasons why it’s good to work at home

April 25, 2007 by Chris Gribble

  1. You have a daily 1 minute commute.
  2. You have more time for other things because of the 1 minute commute
  3. You can eat lunch at home and save money
  4. You save money on fuel and other transport costs
  5. You can take a productive break when you want and do something around the home
  6. You are available for the kids
  7. You can be more flexible with your hours
  8. It’s nice to feel like you are your own boss even if you are still really working for someone else
  9. There are less office politics to deal with

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Lose weight in 8 seconds – We’ll see?

April 7, 2007 by Chris Gribble

Yes it’s time. Time to make a few changes in my life. This year has been a year of changes but this could be one of the more important ones that I make. Like many Australians I have slipped into a fairly sedentary lifestyle. I enjoyed a burst of energy during my mid 30’s that lasted for a few years and slowly I have slipped into a lifestyle of less and less activity.
But I realise that I cannot continue this way. I have always enjoyed bike riding so this one is right up my alley.

A REVOLUTION in weight loss is about to hit Sydney after scientists devised a workout that burns three times the amount of fat.

They found their specific brand of interval training prompts the body to click into a metabolic response that allows more fat to be burned under the skin and within the muscles.

Researchers at the University of NSW and the Garvan Institute studied 45 overweight women over 15 weeks, putting them through a 20 minute cycling regime in which they sprinted on a stationary bike for eight seconds followed by 12 seconds of cycling lightly.

“They lost three times more weight as other women who exercised at a continuous, regular pace for 40 minutes,” UNSW Associate Professor Steve Boutcher said.

I intend to lose about 10 kg all up. Theoretically this should take me about 10 weeks but I will give myself 3 whole months. I don’t intend to blog all the time about it but it is an important part of the development of myself as a person.

A crucial figure is my waist measurement. It is 2 inches above what it should be and at my age this becomes increasingly important. So I need to reduce it.

Lets go!

Filed Under: Personal

The difference between a blog and a web site – reflections on blogging

April 4, 2007 by Chris Gribble

After a couple of years of blogging (most of it at another site), I believe that blogging is one of the best things to happen on the web. Remember when we all had a home page, it was everyone’s chance to have their 5 minutes of glory on the newest medium around. The trouble was that these pages were hard to update requiring some technical skills to be able to update regularly.

Now we have lots of blog content management systems that can meet the need of every user. For those who are a slightly tech savvy there is wordpress or a range of other platforms that allow a great total control over the look of their site with an easy to manage dashboard allowing the blogger to post. Then there are the paid hosted systems, typepad stands out in this group and is used by many popular blogs. For example TechCrunch uses typepad. Then there is a plethora of free hosted systems that usually have limited flexibility and are paid for by advertising.

Some of my thoughts on blogging after using a number of these and sharing my thoughts about fatherhood and personal development to the world are:
1. Blogging is about my personal interaction with whatever content matter I choose to write about. That’s what makes is special and unique. I know there are lots of spam blogs out there but they are blogs in name only. There are also a number of professional blogs that exist solely to make money that are really a cross dressing website.
2. Blogging is about the people who are reading your site. With adequate spam protection your blog joins a worldwide conversation of people interacting personally with your content.
3. Blogging is soul enhancing. I find that what I am writing about is also about sharing a part of my spirit with others. I think that writing is essentially about this and that we need to remember that the energy that is dispersed should enhance anyone who comes into contact with it.
4. Blogging is about people. Write for people, talk like a person and respond as a person is the best advice that I can give for building a successful blog.
5. My blog is my gift to others. I know that I may not be the most eloquent of writers but I want to share something of myself with others. The subjects that I write about I care about. I want to see people improve and to have the resources that will enable their self development.

What’s the difference?

Well they look pretty similar but dig in a blog and you will find something special, a person.

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Success – attitude that will make it

April 3, 2007 by Chris Gribble

I think a lot of this is really common sense but sometimes we need to be reminded about the sorts of attitudes that lead to a successful life. At any point on this diagram we can short circuit success.

“No one ever finds life worth living he has to make it worth living.”
Unknown

“Pity is one of the noblest emotions available to human beings; self-pity is possibly the most ignoble . . . . [It] is an incapacity, a crippling emotional disease that severely distorts our perception of reality . . . a narcotic that leaves its addicts wasted and derelict.”
Eugene H. Peterson
Author of Earth and Altar

“The winner’s edge is not in a gifted birth, a high IQ, or in talent. The winner’s edge is all in the attitude, not aptitude. Attitude is the criterion for success.”
Dennis Waitley

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    source

General Colin Powell’s Rules:

1. It ain’t as bad as you think. It will look better in the morning.
2. Get mad, then get over it.
3. Avoid having your ego so close to your position that when your
position falls, your ego goes with it.
4. It can be done!
5. Be careful what you choose. You may get it.
6. Don’t let adverse facts stand in the way of a good decision.
7. You can’t make someone else’s choices. You shouldn’t let someone
else make yours.
8. Check small things.
9. Share credit.
10. Remain calm. Be kind.
11. Have a vision. Be demanding.
12. Don’t take counsel of your fears or naysayers.
13. Perpetual optimism is a force multiplier.

Filed Under: Self improvement

The heart of the matter

April 1, 2007 by Chris Gribble

The Lord said, “I myself will dream a dream within you. Good dreams come from me, you know. My dreams seem impossible, not too practical, not for the cautious man or woman. A little risky sometimes, a trifle brash perhaps. Some of my friends prefer to rest more comfortable in sounder sleep with vision less eyes. But for those who share my dreams I ask a little patience, a little humour, a little courage, and a listening heart – I will do the rest. Then they will risk and ponder at their daring, run and marvel at their speed, build and stand in awe at the beauty of their building. You will meet me often as you work – in your companions who share your risk, in your friends who believe in you enough to lend their own dreams, their own hands, their own hearts in your building: in the people who find your doorway, stay awhile and walk away knowing that they too can find a dream. There will be sun filled days and sometimes it will rain a – little variety-. Both come from me. So, come, be content. It is my dream you dream. My caring you witness. My love you share. And this will be the heart of the matter.” (Author Unknown)

Yesterday we were the part of a new venture in the spirit. Soul Whispers. No web page yet but when it comes I will let you know. We all have a dance and for each of us it will have a unique tempo and rhythm. This was handed out to all of us who were there to encourage Bruce on his journey.

[rockyou 62361806]

Filed Under: Poems, Spirituality

Service – Same company different price tag

April 1, 2007 by Chris Gribble

I recently with a friend made a large purchase of technical equipment at a prominent Australian retailer. We had two staff members collecting the stuff and they could not have been more helpful. They even waited for us at the counter and helped us to carry all the gear to the car. They were chatting and and friendly and we couldn’t really have asked for any better service.

Same company different day. I purchased a single less expensive item. The sales assistant was obviously not that interested in the service that I received. I was given the product and pointed to the direction of the front counter and there was not time for any idle chat.

I am not complaining about either transaction. I am just wondering what a commission based sales structure does to customer service? Does it really motivate or does it in the end devalue?

This is not a blog about customer service but I am always interested in the attitudes that drive us. I could talk all day about some of the ways that people are treated by companies. I am left wondering about this company? It is very successful but has it missed something important?

Or is it just a reflection on society. That is the way we are treated because of the size of our purchase a reflection on the values that are important to each one of us. Or are we going to break out of this?

I would like to think that we can be different.

I think of the responses that I have received from Darren Rowse of ProBlogger fame. Early in my blogging career I wrote a couple of emails to him. I always received a response and it was always polite. I realise that my requests were not really valid but never was I treated in a way that devalued myself.
Darren’s blog is one of the most popular on the blogosphere and yet he took the time to respond to me at ChrisGribble.com. It gives me hope that there are people who are able to live differently to others. I don’t know him personally yet I appreciated the way that he has differentiated himself in this way.

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Don’t worry be messy

April 1, 2007 by Chris Gribble

That’s right its been proven. I doesn’t matter if you are messy. In fact if you are messy you will probably be more creative.

Don’t ask me the references for my evidence but I heard it on very good authority that those impressively neat people with immaculate desks and a file name for everything are not neccessarily more efficient or happier than us messies. Almost certainly from the research it appears they will be less creative.

And guess what? Whether we are tidy or messy we will all spend the same time looking for stuff. About 6 minutes.
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See here is my evidence. Messy kid happy face. Have we have just lost the ability to enjoy it as adults?

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Love the ones that you are with……

March 28, 2007 by Chris Gribble

What is our relationship to the rest of the world? here are some more insights to being a positive presence person.

The highest honor a French chef can attain is to have his retaurant listed as a three star restaurant in the Michelin Guid to fine eating. According to one newspaper, the 1995 guide added a twentieth resturant to its three star listing: the Auberge de Eridan in Annecy, France.

The owner and self taught chef, Marc Veyrat, is a culinary maverick. His unorthodox ideas got him kicked outof three hotel culinary schols, and local hotels would not even take him on as an apprentice in the kitchen.

Veyrat is from the French Alps. Alpine herbs, such as caraway, cumin, wild thyme, and chenopodium, are key ingredients in his recipies. Once a week at dawn Veyrat ventures into the mountains to pick the herbs.

I know I’m not a traditional chef,says Veyrat.I’m a student of nature, because before you love the cuisine you have to love the ingredients.

To be a positive presence person (PPP) you have to really love other people before you can appreciate what they do. To do this means that we value them for who they are and refuse to view others as a commodity. It is about loving the ingredients that come together to make each person that we meet a precious encounter.

Try it and you will find that the way that they respond to you will be different. Sure there will still be the users. Learn to recognise them quickly and limit the access they have to your core being. Seek out other PPP’s and allow them to see those special attributes that belong to you.

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Web wanders on a Sunday afternoon

March 25, 2007 by Chris Gribble

I went for a wander this afternoon and traveled around the web. Here is where I ended up. Remember when we used to surf the web for fun?

Start here at homeworking.com

This site is for anyone wanting to work at home and anyone already working at home. You will find lots to get you started, help you find work at home and avoid scams.

I went first to the case studies because I like stories.

Jason is 27 and married to Stel. They have lots of furry creatures and the Cat Spedie! Case Study written in 2000 and not updated

mmm.. not updated not a good sign. So I quickly click around. The home employment agency looks interesting. So I click there

Samantha is in her 30’s and lives with her partner and 3 children aged 6 and under.
Sam runs the Home Employment Agency and talks here about being self-employed and the part it has played in her life.

Don’t click on her site. It takes you to a place of pop ups. I begin to wonder about the value of this site. So I go to Yaro the Entrepreneur to share in his journey.

Lots of links here. I go to the young go getter. Thankfully there is a back button. Nothing wrong with the site it doesn’t interest me at all.

For any eager beavers if you are ready to join as a client of Rich Schefren’s coaching program you can do so here – StrategicProfits.com/coaching/

but they are full. back to the back button again.

Next link is to Simpleology:

Here’s What You’ll Learn in the FREE Simpleology 101:The one simple “brain hack” known by the world’s richest 1% that allows you to get 300% more done in the same amount of time. (This one is so obvious that you’ll be amazed the whole planet doesn’t know it. And yes, this is why it seems the more these jet-setters lounge around the pool, the more money they make. It’s disgusting.)

But as I go through the sign on process they want more and more information so I get out of here. I am out of time almost an hour later and really none the wiser.

I am generally a happy person so I wonder what this article says about me? Why Intelligent People Tend to be Unhappy

Western society is not set up to nurture intelligent children and adults, the way it dotes over athletes and sports figures, especially the outstanding ones. While we have the odd notable personality such as Albert Einstein, we also have many extremely intelligent people working in occupations that are considered among the lowliest, as may be attested by a review of the membership lists of Mensa (the club for the top two percent on intelligence scales).

Finally I found something that interested me.

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Is education a cure for the ills of globalisation?

March 25, 2007 by Chris Gribble

Summary

The concept of a global village encompassing the whole world seemed to become a reality in recent decades with the rapid advances in technology, the web, changing industrial practice and the shift towards the information economy. However the web (the primary communications medium of globalization) has also effectively communicated the differences that are increasingly obvious in our world. Globalization has ushered in a new information economy. The web was once hailed as the means by which the massification of education would occur with many seeing opportunities to capture new markets made accessible by the internet. Yet globalization has not resulted in the world that many hoped for. The question is will education provide the way for creating a better world or will it be the tool to further divide our world?

Globalization Definition

Today Globalisation is a term used to describe a number of paradigm shifts that have or are occurring in our world. It describes a borderless community in which the traditional nation state boundaries are redefined in light of economic partnerships that transcend these established boundaries. McWorld and Coca-colonisation of the world are global brands that are often viewed as symbols a new form of imperialism that is sometimes termed the Americanisation of the world. It is also used to describe the convergence of culture often to the detriment of local communities and values.

The web began as a medium by which academics could communicate to each other so that they could exchange information and ideas. It emerged in the early 1990’s from being a communication medium for a few elite academics to linking the world electronically. It very quickly was seen as a means to create income. For many the idea of communicating to the whole world also brought ideas of massive new markets to be tapped. At first no one was really sure how this would occur. The dot com emerged and during the 1990’s and generated huge amounts of investment capital based on little income and none of the traditional tangible assets. The mantra was if it was new technology it was good.

The bubble burst. The dot com collapse and resulting losses incurred devastated many people’s confidence in internet. Much of the early hype was based on a lack of understanding of how the web works as a communication’s medium. The halcyon days of the 90’s are now behind us but the web is still growing at a phenomenal rate. It is a medium that provides instant access to billions of searchable pages of information. Google currently the worlds leading search engine handles 200 million such searches per day. Millions of people everyday send emails, engage in virtual discussions in chatroom or instant messages and post views and opinions on discussion boards. It connects our world instantly in a way never before possible.

A second great influence is the shift in our world from being an industrial economy to an information economy. Alvin Toffler in the Third Wave describes the ramifications of such a shift. Production of goods is based on cost savings such as cheap labour and is not dependent on national boundaries. Once exporting was about the movement of raw materials to the next stage of manufacturing. The transnational corporation functions as its own entity moving production and finances outside the restrictions of the traditional nation state that has dominated world political systems for the past few centuries.

Out of these great changes the nation state are seeking to redefine their place in our global village. For many developing nations globalization is seen as a synonymous with Americanisation. There is a strong resistance to the homogenization of culture within a world of global brands dominated by American economic and cultural imperialism. The so called economic equal playing field strongly favours western nations who demand access to developing nation’s markets but are still able to impose tariffs to protect their local more expensive producers.

Globalisation has not been the cure all for the ills of the world. After the collapse of the communism late last century capitalism and its accompanying democracy is seen as the only viable financial and governing model. But it has also failed to realize solutions to many of the issues that plague society. World Bank initiatives to bail out some of the Asian tiger economies after their meltdown during the 90’s have imposed unfair impositions on nations that had little to do with the lending of money. For example the condition of receiving money is to open markets. These conditions have often exacerbated the receiving nation’s problems and this is evident in the growing divide between the world’s have’s and the have nots. During the recent Iraqi war the United Nations was largely ineffectual in staving off the United States dogged commitment to replace Saddam Hussein. Its resolutions and weapons reports were treated disdainfully by George Bush who chose to ignore it and go to the war on the premise of Iraq‘s possession of arms of mass destruction.

Education has long been seen as the means by which disadvantaged groups can modernize and achieve economic equality. This is even truer in an information economy where wealth is evaluated by one’s access to information. As one becomes better educated they gain higher incomes, they move up through society’s pecking order and they are better able to serve the community. Because of this the whole community is considered better off.

A concern is that education is now seen as another economic commodity. This tension is felt acutely in higher education institutions where courses are now closely linked to industry expectations. Once a University’s role was clearly defined, it accumulated information through research and disseminated that information by teaching. To a large extent this occurred outside the market influences, was largely government subsidized and was regarded as a community service. Today education institutions face increased pressures to do more with less and meet the demands of industry. With the burgeoning student population professors are under more pressure to meet increasing demands from their clients.

Within the education paradigm many viewed technological advances with an eye for cost saving and mass production and dissemination of education. Two thirds of the world lives within 800 miles of Bangkok and so far is largely untapped market. It was envisioned that there was a huge market for secondary education for these emerging economies. Many thought that transmissive models of learning would allow cheap mass produced education. This is reflected in terminology such as learning materials to describe a course of instruction.

Online learning opportunities may not be the educational panacea that everyone hoped for. It is not cheap. Instead quality online learning may be more expensive than or at least as expensive as traditional face to face educational models. One of the strengths of online learning is its ability to construct learning communities through computer mediated conferencing (CMC). Most suggest that a student ratio of one teacher to 25 or so students is the optimal ratio for effective learning to occur.

At the recent G8 conference in Evian, Jaques Chirac, France‘s Prime Minister suggested that unless there is an investment in infrastructure that globalization is doomed to failure. The evaluation in 2002 of the primary commitments of the G8 countries at Kananaskis of the Genoa summit in 2001 suggests that there is little interest or political will by the G8 countries to invest in the resources that are required to supply a primary education for many disadvantaged people.

Therefore rather than the liberator that it has been in the past if used wrongly it may become another tool that results in further oppression of disadvantaged groups. Current World Bank policies are orientated to an economistic development of human capital model of education. Education policies are designed to increase the efficiency of the way it is administered with an emphasis on the outcomes. They have created a global model that has little understanding or place for local needs, culture or communities. Instead of being in the hands of local teachers it comes under the realm of global economic rationalism.

Any global education initiatives will need to be able to identify with local needs if they are to be effective. The African continent is today facing an Aids epidemic that will infect one third of its population and will create a huge drain on its resources in the coming decade. Israelis and Palestinians continue to blow each other up on an almost daily basis. SARS recently erupted in flashpoints around the world carried at an unprecedented rate in a borderless world. Within a decade many baby boomers will begin drawing on their superannuation and many analysts are certain that this will result in an economic downturn as less funds are available for investment.

The possibilities offered to our world by technology and education are enormous. Online learning is poised to contribute to an emerging post colonial; post industrial world with its values of access and equity to all.  Is online learning the panacea to the ills of globalization? It could contribute to the growing world divide by furthering the gap between the information have’s and have nots. This scenario only serves the haves and enables them to be better off. However, with the right infrastructure it could provide access to learning opportunities without limitations of time or space or race or culture. This could serve to bring together co-operatively the strengths of our global community and create a win/win situation.

Readings

Barboza, D, When Golden Arches Are Too Red, White and Blue, www.nyt.com accessed 10.06.03.

Coxon, E, From Patronage to Profiteering, New Zealand’s relationship with the small states of Oceania, Educational Philosophy and Theory, Vol. 34, No. 1, 2002., accessed 10.06.03

Heath, G, Introduction to Symposium on Globalisation, Educational Philosophy and Theory, Vol. 34, No. 1, 2002., accessed 10.06.03

Barry M. Leiner, Vinton G. Cerf, David D. Clark, Robert E. Kahn, Leonard Kleinrock, Daniel C. Lynch, Jon Postel, Larry G. Roberts, Stephen Wolff, A Brief History of the Internet, http://www.isoc.org/internet/history/brief.shtml accessed 10.06.3

LEONHARD, D,  Globalization Hits a Political Speed Bump, www.nyt.com accessed 10.06.03.

Mayes, T. 2000, ‘The technology of learning in a social world.’ Paper for Lifelong Learning Forum, Glasgow Caledonian University, pp.1-11.

Peters, M., Roberts, P., Universities, Futurology and Gloablisation, Discourse: studies in the cultural politics of education, Vol.21, No.2., 2000., Accessed 10.06.03

Tapsall, S., All aboard the Borderless Education Bandwagon, Open Learning, Vol. 16, No.1, 2001 accessed 10.06.03

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ABC’s of Fatherhood – O

March 23, 2007 by Chris Gribble

O is for openness. I want to be very open with my children. One of the common experiences of children of my generation is that they never really got to know their fathers. That is they knew about them but they never really got to share some of the more intimate aspects of their life.

I try to be very open with my kids. In many ways that’s easy because of my personality. With people that I know and trust I can be very open. I tend to be more reserved with new acquaintances and unfamiliar circumstances. My children need to see in me the full range of emotions. Not just when I am irritable or enforcing discipline or even frustration because someone has drawn over the covers of our newly covered lounge. They also need to see the other emotions, sadness, disappointment and happiness in a range of situations.

Too often we can be guilty of not having enough time to sit with our kids and explain in their terms what is really going on. So we end up just having closed relationships that only deal with externals. The other day my daughter was talking on the phone to a friend. And she told this friend a whopping story because she thought that no one could hear here. But, I did. That day I took the time to talk to her about why she told the story. I tried to go beyond just dealing with the obvious lie. I had an opportunity to open up to her and say that I love her for who she is not for who she would like to be. I said that she didn’t need to tell stories for people to be her friend and that if they really wanted to be her friend they would like her just the way that she is. We talked about it. We were open. I was open to her about the fact that she was so very special just the way that she was. In the busyness of life it can be easy to just deal with problems quickly.

Openness required the commitment of time and effort into the relationship to ensure that we are able to talk about the stuff that does and doesn’t matter. Because it all matters in some way.

Filed Under: Fatherhood

Changing my world – becoming a PPP

March 23, 2007 by Chris Gribble

Today I experienced the power of somone who was a positive presence person (PPP). PPP(people) are able to bring people to almost immediately into a positive state of mind.

I walked into a corner store to by a can of pepsi. The young person behind the counter was dressed in a singlet and shorts, was covered in tatoos and had a number of piercings on various appendages. My immediate expectation was that I could expect only a very basic level of customer service. And at worst I could experience a certain amount of contempt.

I was wrong. Completely, totally and utterly wrong.

It started when he served the lady in front of me. He was helpful and smiled and wished here a nice day. I found that my expectation of service was beginning to change. But, she was far more attractive than me and I am a not overly attractive middle aged man.

I was wrong.

It was even better than I thought. Somehow this young man made my purchase of a can of pepsi into one the highlights of my morning. It wasn’t just what he said or how he served me. It wasn’t what he did in the end that made a mundane task into something special.

It was his attitude to life that changed everything. He was a prime example of a PPP. He is an influencer, a leader who is able to change his world.

PPP’s do some of the following things regularly:

  • They change their world, they are not limited by their present context.
  • They change other people’s world – they are a positive influence and are able to change the attitudes of people around them.
  • They don’t worry about their present circumstances – they know that they are not the permanent thing in their life. Attitudes remain with us far longer.
  • They are not lmited by their present circumstances. Hope is a key element of being a PPP. It is a key component of being a whole person, living without hope is living a half life in which we survive with a part of our humanity missing.

 

Filed Under: General, Personal

March 20, 2007 by Chris Gribble

“If you always do what you’ve always done, you always get what you always got” Tony from NCIS

https://www.chrisgribble.com/260/

Filed Under: General, Going Deeper

What sort of worker are you?

March 20, 2007 by Chris Gribble

  • Thrill seekers – Do you find challenges in the everyday. Are you able to create an sense of excitement even in the everyday experiences of life.
  • Fear avoiders – These are the workers who want the world to stay the same for ever. And, they resent anyone who wants to upset the status quo. (seth godin)

You will find both of these people in the workplace. The longer that I work the more I realise that there are certain constants that come with work. You will find these personalities and the issues that come with them regularly.

Here are some other constants that I have been thinking about lately:

  1. Conflict – this is the main one that we all will struggle with from time to time.
  2. Relationships – Working with others is a core competency.
  3. Skills – we all need to develop skills that will allow us to perform competently.
  4. Routine – get used to it and be prepared to do the same things regularly even if you have a great job it will require some routine.

There are probably more that I will add to later………

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Thanks Adam Walker

March 20, 2007 by Chris Gribble

By the way I should thank the appropriate people for the template. Thanks Adam even though I don’t know you for this design. The credit is at the bottom of the page and his site is here.

This template works really well I haven’t found any glitches yet. I still have a bit of tidying up to do but life has been busy in recent days.

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Boundaries – what not to do with your children

March 19, 2007 by Chris Gribble

Cloud and Townsend (Boundaries) identify four typical ways that people will blur boundaries:

  1. Compliancy
    1. They are afraid of hurting someone by saying no.
    2. Their boundaries are so indistinct anyone is able to cross them and this opens the person up to abuse.
    3. They don’t like to rock the boat and will often give into a child’s demands rather than follow through with consequences
  2. Controlling
    1. This person doesn’t respect others boundaries and will often look for opportunities to intrude in other people’s lives.
    2. Controllers will rarely believe that they have done the wrong thing because they are so consumed with their own needs.
    3. As a parent they will have little understanding of their child’s needs or temperament instead they will enforce their standards or expectations on the child.
    4. Controllers are not really in control, rather they are controlled by their own insecurities and impulses. (For example they will become extremely angry when something doesn’t go their way)
  3. Non- responsives
    1. They are not able to hear the needs of others or see things from another’s perspective.
    2. They often will appear distant from their children. This wall is put up to protect them from further hurt
  4. Avoidants
    1. These people find it hard to accept good things from others Cloud and Townsend say that this is common in men who demonstrate it by finding it hard to accept help or advice.

Filed Under: Fatherhood

A Prayer – For Forgiveness

March 15, 2007 by Chris Gribble

Almighty . . .
Forgive
My doubt,
My anger
My pride.
By Thy mercy
Abase me,
By Thy strictness
Raise me up.

Have mercy
Upon us.
Have mercy
Upon our efforts,
That we
Before Thee,
In love and in faith,
Righteousness und humility,
May follow Thee,
With self-denial, steadfastness, and courage,
And meet Thee
In the silence.

Give us
A pure heart
That we may see Thee,
A humble heart
That we may hear Thee,
A heart of love
That we may serve Thee,
A heart of faith
That we may live Thee.

Thou
Whom I do not know
But Whose I am.

Thou
Whom I do not comprehend
But Who hast dedicated me
To my fate.
Thou

Filed Under: Prayers

Australia’s death rate

March 14, 2007 by Chris Gribble

Dr Chris Cain, says he is not surprised that the figures show a small drop in the nation’s death rate. (ABC News)
I find this surprising. I always thought it was close to 100%? And, that this figure was fairly stable worldwide?

Filed Under: General

The influence of parents

March 14, 2007 by Chris Gribble

Frederick II the emperor of Germany from 1196 to 1250 was called a wonder of the world by his admiring subjects. He was a keen scientist and conducted the following experiment,

He bade foster mothers and nurses to suckle their children, to bathe and wash them, but in no way to prattle to them, for he wanted to learn whether they would speak the Hebrew language, which was the oldest, or Greek or Latin or Arabic or perhaps the language of their parents of whom they had been born. But he laboured in vain because all the children died. For they could not live without the petting and joyful faces and loving words of their foster mothers.(Ross and McLaughlin, 1949, p.360)

Children learn to communicate through the messages that they receive from us. They are conditioned by the environment that we provide and are taught by us how to respond. A name given to this is behavioural conditioning.

There is a story about a young psychologist who wanted to train his small son to use the potty. Since children don’t usually find the toilet seat too much fun or too stimulating he decided to change this by bringing an element of pleasure to the toilet environment. He obtained a circus poster of a clown that was colourful and smiling with a big nose. He placed a red light bulb in the nose and switched it on while the child was on the potty. Needless to say the child enjoyed this immensely and as a result wanted to go to the toilet all the time. Later it wasnt too difficult to rig an electrical circuit so that whenever the child urinated the circuit was completed and the nose light up.

This also produced what is called a stimulus generalisation, which means that a stimulus like the original can produce a response like the original. One day the father and the son went on a car ride and were stopped by a red light.

Can you guess what happened?

Filed Under: Fatherhood

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